Sep 25 2012
Traveling has its rewards – no, not from credit card programs or even the amazing scenery you are treated to around each curve. I’m talking about the rewards of meeting and interacting with people and perhaps, just perhaps if you’re lucky, having a positive and lasting impact on their lives.
Let me tell you about a young man named David whom I met in Albuquerque in May. It was a hot afternoon and I needed to purchase some “provisions” at a local grocery market, so I stopped into a Smiths (the big chain in this region) in the city of Albuquerque. Upon checking out, I noticed a young man with an outgoing personality and positive attitude… so, as a networker, I did “what I do” – I struck up a brief conversation and exchanged numbers with him. My goal? Simply to meet with him and see if he wanted to work with me as I build out one of the network marketing companies I’ve decided to represent – he fit the demographic I am looking for with a particular product called Hair of the Dog. A day or so later, I called him, we agreed to meet up; he missed the meeting, I texted him and asked if he was serious about making something happen – he replied (which in itself is beyond the norm) and indicated that yes, he was serious – always a good sign when you intend to meet with a “prospective business partner.” So… we met at a local coffee shop.
When we met up, what started as a simple business meeting grew into much more. As we talked – for quite a while – I learned that David is a young man with strong ambitions and dreams, and like too many young men these days, he has placed himself into a life for himself that he is minimally prepared for. David is 20 years old; allow me to introduce you to Angelique, his 16 year old girl friend and Elijah, his 3 month old son.
Yes, David is 20 with a steady girl who is still in high school and a child. In my time with him, he shared with me that he has yet to acquire his high school diploma. While I remained in the Albuquerque area (for RV repairs…and I firmly believe that things happen for a reason) this past Spring, David and I met up several times – a couple with Angelique, who at the time was nearing the time when she would give birth to Elijah.
What started as a simple brief business meeting where I seek motivated, positive people to talk about promoting Hair of the Dog (an energy drink that cures/prevents hangovers – for real!), turned into a friendship and a mentorship as it was clear to me that David had virtually no support network. He was not close to his own family, and his girl friends mom was not really supportive of his relationship with her daughter – even though he was about to become the father of their child. He left high school without graduating after his best friend was killed in what sounds a lot like gang related violence (Albuquerque has a large number of gangs, and many residents who have virtually nothing to their name.)
At that time this past Spring, David’s primary concerns were to relocate to a better apartment where he and Angelique could live with their baby, hopefully one close to his place of employment – at which he seemed to be “established” since he had been working there for nearly two years. I helped him check out a few places, and used my resources to provide him with more potential apartments for himself and his new family.
At our last meeting in May, I promised David would remain in contact with him and would return in the autumn. I could see the doubt in his eyes as he clearly had been let down by others before. After I left Albuquerque to continue my travels towards Arlington, Texas, David and I remained in contact – mostly by phone texting. I was not surprised as his experiences in life have led him to not count on or even trust most people.
Last night (fast forward towards the end of September), I returned to that same Smiths and hoped to run into David. Recently, he had stopped replying to my texts and emails. Rather than guess at why, I decided a personal visit would be in order.
A promise fulfilled – the look on David’s face immediately confirmed he was not only happy to see me but he knew that I had stuck to my word. That was at around 4pm, his work schedule permitted him to meet with me after 5pm at which time we talked for a bit and then went to “break-bread.” (As it turned out, his phone had been stolen and he did not have the funds to replace it. He is working to earn enough to get it back.)
I learned that Angelique gave birth to a healthy baby boy; that David had moved (I saw his place last night briefly – its in a tough part of town and you gotta travel through a tougher part of town to get there!) He is now about 6 miles from Smiths and has had trouble getting there on time so last week he earned less than $100. Not good for a guy who has to cover his own living expenses and help with the baby.
We talked about immediate action steps – getting his GED, landing a job closer to where he is now living, getting a better job once he has his diploma, along with steps to start making money with Hair of the Dog. He surprised me by sharing that he still had the can of “HOD” I had given him back in May (unopened) and had shown it to several folks. I reminded him about the nature of network marketing, and the fact that a young man (in another company) was making over $70,000 per month marketing to college age students in Arizona (this news came to me from the owner of Good Life – makers of HOD).
I believe that David will in time grow into the mode of building a network marketing business, one that I will be honored to help him grow. Should he not move in that direction, I still feel blessed to serve as his mentor, regardless of whether I am anywhere near Albuquerque or not. I will continue to encourage him to get his GED and a closer job – a need for a phone, printer, computer, and eventually a car.
If my travels bring me in contact with more David’s and I can be a source of information, inspiration and mentorship, then it makes this journey all the more enriching and worthwhile.
Just wanted to share this. More thoughts coming soon, including a hard hitting video where I’m goin to talk about rat poison.
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